My 8 month old baby was hungry and wanted to breastfeed. He expressed his need and I understood clearly but as he was not crying yet, I thought I will clear the mess on the bed to lie down properly. I made him lie down and started cleaning. He started crying. I quickly got into the position to feed him but before he could begin I felt he is going to take a long time so I ran towards the kitchen a gulp a glass of water and rushed back to the bed. But those 30 seconds made him angry and he screamed on top of his voice. Within a second I started feeding him. As soon as he had some milk, he was calm again and started playing with my clothes and touching my face very lovingly. He smiled at me and I kissed him.
LESSON : He was angry as he was hungry. As soon as he got what he wanted, he was no more angry. Moreover his anger vanished instantly, he did not continue to be angry thinking about what happened and blaming me for the mismanagement.
We adults just cannot let a negative emotion go. We hold on to grudges and anger for so long even when their purpose is resolved. For example if I am angry with my husband as he is getting late and I am waiting for him for something important. Technically as soon as he is home my need is fulfilled and I shouldn’t be angry anymore. But what do we do, just continue with our anger and start blaming.
Lets learn this from our kids. stop being angry at the very instant when the situation that made you angry changed.
Kids are the best teachers, they bring the natural perspective to our lives. Open your heart to receive knowledge from them more than imparting them with our knowledge which is conditioned by the world we live in. Listen to what these little wonders tell us.
Have a great day!
What are the first few things that come to your mind when you think about being a new mother?
Are they the thoughts of :
- Sleepless nights
- No time for yourself
- Non-understandable needs of an infant
- Precautions and practices which need sacrifices from you?
If that is true you are no different from so many other moms around the world.
In child rearing and upbringing, people don’t want to take chances. They just follow age-old customs and practices as told by their elders. These practices are passed on from one generation to the next.
When I got pregnant, I read a lot of books and watched many documentaries, each very different from the other. Some of them were related to physical well-being and growth of a child, some talk about the emotional and intellectual growth of babies while some others talk in terms of soul purpose and spirituality of a child. By processing all those facts and theories my ideas were getting very different from those suggested by my mom and mom-in-law. I told them I want to try all what I have gathered as theories and apply them myself and see the results. They have been really supportive of my decision and so I got my chance at this.
I took it all as an experiment during my pregnancy and with my baby. In an experiment the result can be either fail or pass. No judgement required as this is what an experiment is. With an open heart and mind I began my journey of trying, experimenting, succeeding, failing, retrying and most importantly learning and developing.
This blog will be a culmination of all of them and will give you an insight into a whole new world. A world of trials, love and unimaginable happiness that babies bring with them to our lives. This blog is not to tell you what is right and what is wrong in bringing up a child but it is here to give you the confidence to try new things and experiment in parenting.
I want to share my ideas, my experiments and their results with other parents and will wait for responses, suggestions, appreciations and criticism. All I want is to know other perspectives and other school of thoughts to widen my horizon.
Long way to go….
Thanks for joining me!
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton